Author Archives: Deb Burnett

Your ability to communicate is probably the most essential ingredient to the health of your relationship. Most of what we call “communication” is not really communication at all. It is often blaming, complaining, judging, criticizing, accusing or defending. Often this type of “communication” is characterized with sentences that begin with “YOU” or “IT”.   TheseContinue reading “ARE YOU TALKING TO ME?”

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Your ability to communicate is probably the most essential ingredient to the health of your relationship. Most of what we call “communication” is not really communication at all. It is often blaming, complaining, judging, criticizing, accusing or defending. Often this type of “communication” is characterized with sentences that begin with…

 Try to be empathic as much as possible…putting yourself in the other’s shoes.  Remember that you’re allies, not adversaries.  You’ve got each other’s backs. Refrain from using criticism, defensiveness, contempt or stonewalling.  Stonewalling is not only the physical reaction of simply leaving a conversation without compassionate closure, it’s also eye-rolling, snickering, grabbing your head/forehead, staringContinue reading “DIFFICULT CONVERSATION GUIDELINES”

Learn practical tools for everyday problems The goal of this interactive course is to examine habitual patterns of thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations that may be obscuring your path to a wholehearted life. One of the biggest struggles we face is aligning internally – we want X, but do Y.  We think A, but feel B.  WeContinue reading “CONNECTiONS – An 8 week group course to foster resiliency”

We all have an ‘ego’ that takes over sometimes. Think about the last time you were upset or the feelings you had when you were little. Do you know that feeling when words are coming out of your mouth so quickly that it seemed as if you were on autopiliot? That you were actually witnessingContinue reading “Men, Women & Emotions”